In this materialistic metropolis with multiple life pressures, many people have more or less depressive symptoms. In fact, depression is a kind of loss caused by self-aims that are too high and personal abilities cannot be achieved. Long-term deposition of this lost psychology will cause physiological disorders, resulting in depression and mental illness. Because of the fast pace of life, family, friends and society will exert all kinds of pressure on you virtually every day, making you depressed and unhappy. This is the real state of existence for many people today.
Tina’s traumatic growing up
Tina was born and raised in San Marcos, California. Because her father left them shortly after Tina was born, her mother’s temperament changed drastically. She always thought that Tina’s arrival ruined their beautiful life. The absence of her father and her mother’s incomprehension during the growth process made Tina diagnosed with severe depression at the age of 22. Before the diagnosis, Tina was a cautious person in everything, for fear that things might go wrong. For this reason, sometimes doing things will appear timid, afraid to try anything that may be beyond the scope of one’s ability, and self-confidence is obviously lacking.
“However, when I keep my sense of proportion, don’t cross my circle of competence, and don’t take risks to try things that I think I can’t do well, at the same time, I’m also setting high requirements for myself, so I don’t know much about many things. I had high expectations. However, once the actual development of things failed to meet my expectations, I began to doubt my abilities, slowly began to deny myself, belittle myself, fell into depression and self-blame, and felt that I was worthless. “Tina said lack of confidence.
Humans are essentially social creatures. We all need to know ourselves through others, and we all expect to be recognized and praised by others. When we do not get this kind of recognition for a long time, and are criticized and rejected for a long time, our self-confidence It slipped away unknowingly. But what we sometimes don’t realize is that others may not disapprove of us, but just don’t express it clearly verbally.
Tina’s self-redemption
Tina grew up with neighbor friend Eric who has always loved cycling and anything that involved the outdoors. Although Eric battled asthma since childhood, he never let it stop him from doing the things he loves. He’s used to San Diego County and its abundance of adventure, with the freedom to explore from snow to sand and anywhere under the sun.
As Eric’s asthma worsened over the years, it eventually affected his overall strength and ability to cycle long distances or through difficult terrain. He started looking for more creative or innovative ways to stay active without jeopardizing his health, like exploring the world of e-bikes. His exploration of e-bikes inadvertently led him to share his passion for cycling with Tina. Tina’s depression made her miserable, she didn’t want to live in her own “death loop”, she wanted to follow Eric to explore new worlds, so attracted by Eric, she wanted to buy a bike suitable for girls softail electric bike. She wanted to improve her depression by cycling.
In view of Tina’s traumatic upbringing, Eric suggested that she adopt a pet to ride with her, so Woody became Tina’s companion on the trip. When she brought Woody home, she knew she could provide him with a safe and loving home where he could thrive and where she felt safe and comfortable.
Tina knew she wanted a softtail e-bike with all-terrain flexibility, whether she wanted to ride from grass to sand or mountains or snow. At 5 feet tall, she wanted a low-span, low-maintenance e-bike that would fit her and Woody’s lifestyle with ease on the saddle. Assisted by Eric for advice and information on the Magicycle Deer full suspension ebike.
A few days later, she ordered a yellow e-bike from Magicycle’s official website, so she could enjoy cycling with her friends. Tina’s favorite thing about her e-bike is its unique ebike suspension system. She said: “It doesn’t look like any other e-bike on the market, and its unique softail design can make me feel very comfortable when riding a steep hill, which makes me not choose to go around because of the steep hill. Road, which is great, and I can’t wait to take Woody on a trip with it.”
Tina’s Advice to Someone Suffering from Depression
- Love yourself to eliminate feelings of unworthiness
People with depression have a certain degree of unworthiness, feeling that they don’t deserve a better life, and don’t deserve everyone’s love. Such long-term psychological pressure will gradually wear down our self-confidence. So, get rid of this sense of unworthiness, love yourself well within your ability, buy some products that make life happy and convenient, and enjoy traveling in a relaxed way, which is the first step of the way to regain the exhausted self-confidence.
- Dare to make decisions.
When we are faced with a choice, we often choose one and we must miss the other. At this time, we will hesitate and entangle, not knowing the results of choosing the two. When we worry and worry too much, and worry too much about gains and losses, we may not make a decision at all in the end. However, not making a decision is actually a decision, that is, deciding not to do both.
- Courage to express your needs
Tina said: “Many people who are not confident don’t like to socialize. I am an extreme example. Before, even if I called the customer service to explain that the product I bought was defective, I was afraid, and I silently endured it. The grievance of inferior products. But after seeing different and magnificent landscapes through cycling, I changed my mind. I was originally advocating my own reasonable rights and interests. Why would I be afraid? “
The process of expressing one’s needs is actually a process of showing oneself to others, letting others know one’s existence, one’s demands, and one’s bottom line, so that one can establish a connection between oneself and others socially, and at the same time delineate oneself. Boundaries to avoid being overly violated.
Finally, I hope that you, who are deeply depressed and unable to see hope, can slowly regain the self-confidence you should have.
